You asked, “What is the best way to deal with a rude mother in law? When she insults you publicly do you ignore her or say something?” First of all, I’m sorry you have to deal with someone in your life that is rude to you and insults you, especially in public! As hard as it may be, my advice would be to ignore her as much as possible, then kill her with kindness. By insulting you publicly, she may be trying to get a reaction from you, in turn making you look bad. So, when the two of you are at the next family function and she tells you how awful your outfit is, pretend you didn’t hear her (too much noise)... if that’s not possible, SMILE, and tell her that you love hers. Hopefully she’ll be stunned into silence and you will be the bigger person.
For advice from other women who know what you are going through, ivillage.com has a message board just for you. Read all about other women’s issues with their mother in laws and how they solved them at http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rldealingwit . Now if you want more professional advice, check out the book Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage by Susan Forward, PhD. There are many books on the subject, but this one is highly recommended.
Finally, there are helpful, sensitive, wonderful mother in laws out there. We really appreciate you! Hopefully, you know who you are. If I helped, let me know! Got a question? Just Ask Mo.
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OK, new question. I don't want to know what the books suggest, because I've read all of those. From YOUR OWN personal experience with your 6 children....
When is the best time to move from potty trained to toilet trained? My 3 year old is 100% perfect potty trained (never had 1 acccident!), but reluctant to try the toilet. But I had a friend that was SHOCKED she's not been moved onto toilet training. Your own experience in this department?
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